I have often thought about how everything in our lives are defined in absolute terms. Things are either good for us or bad for us. The answer to a question is yes or no.  I think that there are somethings which can not be defined in absolutes and must be defined with the heart. One question that can only be defined by the heart for me is what makes a mother. 
When I found this quote I knew that I had found the perfect definition of what makes a mother. I have heard the stories of many women who have lost a pregnancy or lost a child at birth and each feel that they are mothers  of angels. I am lucky enough to be the mother of a little boy and everyday I thank life for this chance.  I know that I am lucky to have him told hold in my arms while holding my other kids in my heart,

I will write more when I can dedicate the time that this section deserves. For now I just wish to to say that moving on does not mean blocking out the loss or forgetting it happened. For me it means honouring the loss by valuing the present and putting faith in the future that good things can happen. 

Update - I has been 5 years since we had our first loss and we have now had two beautiful healthy children. It has become easier to accept the losses that we have experienced as they are further away.  I know that every time I hold my children that I am think of how lucky I am to have them.