With the expanding waist line  comes the spreading of the news and the expanded number of people aware of your pregnancy.  While I had wanted to shout this pregnancy from the roof tops when we found out, I decided that a more cautious approach might be best with my history of perinatal loss.  I know of cases where people did share early and then suffered a miscarriage which can be hard when everyone asks how things are going. I am glad that  I had shared with a few close friends before we had our miscarriage, they became my support group afterwards.
Now that we are in a safer time, I have decided on a more subtle method and that is telling my friends and family as I see them.  All I can say is the reactions of some when they see me is priceless. I was at a family event recently and one or two people were ready to burst trying not to ask and then asking anyways. More to write later, time to get ready for work.

For those that have never experienced miscarriage or any other types of perinatal loss would say   see the doctor and get ready for the baby. Those of us who have experienced perinatal start thinking about how can I be prepared for the best and worst case scenario? How can I protect my heart while still being happy for this opportunity to have another chance at being a mom?
Getting ready for me is more than just getting my mind around the fact that I am pregnant, but also the reality that every pregnancy has the opportunity to end in loss. I am trying to keep a positive but vigilant mindset as this pregnancy proceeds.

I think that physically getting ready for the rest of your pregnancy is very similar for all women regardless of whether you have experienced perinatal loss or not. Beyond the obvious ones of eating better, taking a prenatal, stop smoking and drinking, I think being active and stopping the caffeine intake are important. I think the no coffee thing will be the hardest for me. I know that I can drink decaf, but it is just not the same and I feel tired enough as it is with this pregnancy.

I know that when we found out that we were pregnant that I was so happy that this month we were lucky enough to that plus however faint it was. I also have been feeling the wondering thoughts of is this one going to be viable and in the right place. What is that feeling in my tummy, is it normal or not? I have just been reminding myself to take it one day at a time, tell myself that I am doing all I can and that things will be ok.