Like many of you reading this blog, anniversaries of  past loss can be both painful and healing. 

some cases 

In the last few days, I have been thinking about what the grieving process looks from the point of view of a person who is supporting another through grief.  having  gone through a number of grieving events, I know how important it is to have a good support network.  Many will say that they do not need anyone to be their for them. That they are strong enough to deal with it on their own. I know that no matter how strong we think we are we can still use support of some type during our grieving. I have come to feel that how support is given and accepted depends on two main considerations. It depends of the the relationship of the person supporting the griever and  the relationship of the two with the loved one who has died. Just looking at my own experiences I have noticed a big difference in how I have been able to support others.
I have been given the opportunity to support both friends and family through their own loss. With one friend I did not know the person who was lost (ectopic pregnancy)  but just the simple act of sharing my own story and suggestions as needed  was very helpful for my friend. Through this website I hope I am giving others tools to  work through their own. Family loss is often harder as I the support person also  likely had a relationship with the deceased and thereby my own grieving to go through
 I have a few people in my life that have recently lost a loved one and their method of dealing with the loss is different. Both are hurting and trying to deal with the loss as well as their responsibilities in regards to the Loss. Another difference is the way I have tried to support them in their journey through the grieving process.
Both these people have known the person all their lives and loved her very much.  Both had a chance or chances to say good bye and make peace with the idea that they would soon loose this amazing woman. This is where their similarities in their journey seem to end. For one the loss is that of a grand parent, and the other it is of a parent.  
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Another insight I have found is how I am trying to support them i their journey through the grieving process.
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It is interesting where a person finds inspiration to write, strength to move on or Knowledge to grow. Today I found my inspiration in post dinner conversation. Our family has experienced a loss from our extended family.   We started talking about how people grieve and the different types of loss that  a person can go through in their lives. I know that I personally have lost  many people in many different ways.
I have lost a pregnancy that I only knew about for a week and another for three months. I have lost my grandparents some I had warning about and others I did not.  I have lost my dad and grieved his loss for almost two years.  Each loss was a different experience and a different grieving process for me.  While I wish that we never had to loose anyone I loved, It is a part of life. The one thing I learn each time is that I am stronger than I think am.