|Shedding Light on the M Word||
I saw this written in a job advertisment of all place but I have to agree. It is about enjoying the simple things in life from a beautiful sunset to the knowledge that I was able to become pregnant despite losing two pregnancies. I know that in the moment it may be hard to find those little bits of positive in your life, but take the time to try. I know that thinking about a good thing helped me to not dwell on the bad, helped to move foreword and be able to honor the grief in the right way for me.
As women we often give ourselves little credit or how strong we are or how strong we can be. In the past when I lost a family member, I took a day to grieve and then proved I was strong by going on about my work or other daily activities. I did sometimes need to close my door or was sent home, but I had gone on and tried to be strong.The first loss was before my son and that time I did not have to be strong for anyone in reality. I had the chance to let myself feel through this and it was a great learning opportunity for me
With our second loss I knew that I was strong enough to make it through this loss. I think it helped that this time I ha my son to be strong for. He did not understand what was going on or that mommy had been in surgery and needed time to recover.
I know that I am stronger than I think I am and part of it is having that supoport network and not being afraid to admit we need a shoulder to cry on.
Added on November 21st
I now know that I was strong enough to survive a miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy but about the news of others good fortunes? This is the next challenge for many of us, being strong everytime we hear of a new person's pregnancy especially when they tell you so early on. While I want to warn them not to say much to to many so soon, I want to try and share in their happiness. While I want to try and be as positive about their news as they are I sometimes find I can't be when I look deep in my heart. I know exciting it is when you found out and before you knew how often pregnancy can end in loss. It takes time and care to get to that point where we can I find it takes time sometimes to remember feel what we say out loud.
Remembrance day, a day that has been set aside to remember all those that have died in service of their country. It is a time to look back and think about what may not have been had the past happened differently. It can often be a time of sadness as others think about their own recent loss.
It is an important to remember the past and use the past to learn from or to help others. Today while we remember the loss and sacrifice of veterans past to take a few moments and remember all those who have experienced the personal loss of pregnancy or their babies. Please take a moment today to share a moment of remembrance and add your thoughts through a comment on this blog.
I am a wife, a mother and a survivor. I have experienced a miscarriage, sucessfull pregnancy and an ectopic pregnancy.