You may ask why I am saying I was lucky? Well our second loss came as a result of an ectopic pregnancy. This is a pregnancy that is not in the uterus and in my case it was in the fallopian tubes. After three ultrasounds and blood tests it was confirmed and I choose to have surgery to remove it before it caused damage to my tubes which can be dangerous. So yes I think I am lucky to have known the warning signs and sought medical treatment immediately.
I have now had several people confide in me in regards to their miscarriages and each time I hear of one it hits me hard. I know how much they wanted the baby and it just was not meant to be. It is hard to know how much to say and often what to say depending on the relationship to you. Sometimes I find the best is to say if you need me, call. If you want to talk, I will listen. If you need to cry with somebody, I will cry with you.
I am dedicating this blog posting to a kind lady who is going through her own loss right now.